One of the most profound determinants of how we experience our lives is how we feel about ourselves–our sense of worthiness. We live with ourselves day in and day out—and the story about ourselves and our lives that we create as we go. You are not alone if you have low self-esteem (it is one of the most common underlying issues we see), but it doesn’t have to be that way. Through the lens of self-loathing, everything is bleak—not even successes, love and closeness with others can be fully enjoyed. Shame and lack of self worth can prevent full connection and the ability to be open and free. Developing self-esteem and self worth provides resilience when you make mistakes or get hurt in relationships. If you have a negative view of yourself, it is not your fault. Lack of felt worthiness means you didn’t get what you needed to feel valued somewhere along the way.
It is so important to see one’s own gifts and abilities, to have what many call self-esteem. Self-esteem is based on things you like about yourself, or on areas in which you feel successful. We want you to feel successful in life, but we also help you move beyond self-esteem to self-compassion, which is even more powerful because it is not based on a judgment or evaluation. Through self-compassion you can accept yourself no matter how and who you are. It is simply an attitude of kindness and care–the kind of loving response we would give to a friend. Holding yourself in this way, where there is no way to fail, allows us to relax and use our energy to be our best selves instead of stress about potential failure. Our worthiness and sense of self worth becomes based on our shared humanity rather than on our performance, perfection, or being good enough.
Some believe they need to be hard on themselves in order to find the drive they need, but self-criticism has actually been proven to drain motivation. Conversely, self-compassion may be the single most powerful tool towards healing and development and is a cornerstone of the work we do.
Please reach out so we can join you on a rescue mission for your true self and your sense of self worth. Let us help you have a loving and nurturing relationship with yourself and let go of the burden of shame and self-hatred. A sense of worthiness, self-esteem, and self-compassion will change your life.
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